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Life can be chaotic. It is not always about events disrupting your bubble, or things not working out how you hoped. Challenges tend to pop up together resulting in concerns about the lack of control. True chaos begins when doubt becomes your companion, and when easiest choices are made in the attempt to cover up some void. Thanks to the contemporary “finger flicking” way of processing information feeds, it has become popular to think that mental health is a widespread challenge. This blog argues that the concern is misappropriated for some of us. Yes, mental issues are very serious, and people who suffer from such require our support and understanding. However, most every day battlers do not suffer from mental issues. Instead, most of us are subject to issues related to mental hygiene. This is a different matter altogether. Let’s express this idea through the top four myths.

Resolutions fail because we make and manage them with an implied time box. This means there is a subconscious “give up” clause. The proposition is that resolutions are worth making only if you are making them for life. All other intentions should remain as such for some time - if some work out, then you could promote them to a status of a resolution. Success is about continuing with a challenge despite any gaps or even interim setbacks. Weakness only exists when you are conversing with your own self-pity, self-flagellation, self-regret. If this is you and those abstract participants, then change the company. It is easier said than done when there is someone or something in real life that is draining your energy away. Just remember - you are not alone! The light will shine through. The most assured thing in life is change. Resolutions succeed when you embrace the change to its deepest possible implications and approach this with a completely open mind. In order to stay in control of such a process, you need Ability to plot the path and treat data points with extreme hygiene in a private, self-reflecting environment Be prepared to stop-start Ability to visualise the causality The choice of the right conversation opponent is yours - hopefully it is the projected stronger and happier self. Resolutions and goals tracking in Neelix is anchored on the concept of experience relationships and causality. You can map a non-linear path towards reaching a goal. “If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” - Martin Luther King Jr.

The answer may fluctuate through time for the same person. In short, your personal experience may matter to at least one other person. It is simply a matter of time and context. Even if there is nothing to evolve for your personal ways, it is not a bad idea to keep an open mind about how you can directly or indirectly help others. Do not constrain the possibilities of extending your reach based on criteria being an introvert or extrovert, mature or younger. It may be instinctive to think about the effect on others through a lens of mentorship. Some of us may bulk at the idea for a multitude of reasons. The idea is to remain unassuming as to how, when and why the comfort zone might get stretched, even if it is by exception. Therefore, it is not about thinking of oneself as a mentor “on a mission”. Also, it is not necessarily about skills, or the self-confidence about “who am I to mentor?”. People need a non-imposing sounding board communicating back through humility. Being available for someone, or taking up a more formal mentorship, is not a privilege or power. It is a service. In fact, learning more about yourself is part of the journey. Never say never to a possibility of learning. The unassuming approach to help someone calls for unassuming helpers. Neelix philosophy is based on the premise that keeping a private diary or inspecting themes should not be an overhead or a must. Ahoc self-reflection is perfectly fine. At the end of the day it is more about intent than ritual. For instance, one of the people you care about might be helped by building up internal strength with a help of a private diary and some guidance at a particular juncture of their life. Over a longer time span, adhoc capture of experiences also carries a fun factor. Getting together for some event can feature a momentary glance at info-graphics in order to visualise a collective or individualised journey to date. This check point can add an extra dimension to family or friends gathering, school reunion, team celebrations, etc.

Personal, socioeconomic and other forces are impacting how we live. However, all these should not preclude one from finding ways to be stronger. This journey is dependent on the skill for Self-Reflective Awareness. A very honest inspection of themes happening within your life can reveal a very important inner mentor. Outside help cannot bring sufficient impact on your life without that inner voice . Best practice is to engage in self-reflections by keeping a journal, one may gain focus and clarity. Listening to oneself requires sufficient privacy. Neelix makes this easy with the concept of a private consortium. Have fun and enjoy the coolest way of keeping a private digital diary for yourself, family, friends or team. You control themes to track. Neelix makes it easy to visualise what is happening and how one aspect of your life may be impacting others. Experience trends, retrospectives, resolutions and goals tracking will make your Digital Diary the most impactful it can be.
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